As a father, on my death bed I am sure my biggest regrets are going to be:
1. That I did not work 78 extra weekends
2. Did not squeeze an extra 3 hours into each of my 8 hour workdays
3. Had more days where I had a vacant look in my eyes, while interacting with people I love, cause a work problem was bothering me.
There is a product to ship, damn it, and Family should never be a priority.
You're showing a disproportionate emotional response to a point he didn't even make.
The idea is that as parents, we send subtle signals to our young children about how adult life should be. A father spending 6h a day at work and the rest with their child is preparing a personality potentially lacking a builtin discipline derived subconsciously from observing the parental example.
This has nothing to do with your worries about your death bed regrets. They're valid too, but besides the point the PP was making.
What's undisciplined about working 6hrs a day, which was about standard for most of human history? Parents (especially immigrants) make incredible sacrifices so that their kids don't have to kill themselves with work, not to be an example.
And some parents just don't like their kids and use "sacrifice" as an excuse to have fun at the office.
I disagree with the premise that discipline is taught primarily by absence. If anything the 6h a day father has more bandwidth to work on discipline and hard work with their kids. I learned hard work from working on stuff with my dad, not by playing nintendo while he was at work.
1. That I did not work 78 extra weekends 2. Did not squeeze an extra 3 hours into each of my 8 hour workdays 3. Had more days where I had a vacant look in my eyes, while interacting with people I love, cause a work problem was bothering me.
There is a product to ship, damn it, and Family should never be a priority.