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It is always unsolicited until it is reasonably, directly solicited


Right but then you're making 'reasonably' and 'directly' do a lot of heavy lifting.

And what does directly even mean in this context? The standards for initiating sex don't require a sit down conversation as to what each party is agreeing to. So why should nude sending be held to a different standard?


The context for this is talking to a person on a dating app where you haven't met them personally. In that case, assuming you've never met them, I think it's inappropriate to send an explicit photo/video unless they straight up ask to see it.

"The standards for initiating sex don't require a sit down conversation as to what each party is agreeing to."

This attitude leads to women having sex/relations they aren't super comfortable doing. It's not a mood killer if you take a beat just to make sure you're on the same page with expectations and it takes a lot less time than locating, opening, and putting on a condom.

You stated in a different comment that your gf tells you off and it kills the mood if you ask to move to the bedroom or having sex while impaired, but surely you realize that's a totally different situation than you meeting up with someone from a dating app, right? Spontaneously acting with someone you know and with who you have built trust is waaaaaay different than sending an unsolicited nude or making advances on someone who is a little more than a stranger.


In modern countries that have implemented a consent-based model instead of a coercion-based one you can't just initiate sex with someone based on your presumption that the other person wants it. If they actually don't (even if they don't explicitly say "no") it's considered rape by the law.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_consent_in_law


And in what consent based jurisdictions are you required to sit down and have a conversation about what is going to happen?


All of them if you want to be sure, which you should. Update your obsolete and outdated view on consent.


Should I also breathalyse my girlfriend if she gets drunk and horny?

She tells me off if I suggest going to bed to have sex because it kills the mood. So what? Am I to give up sex because our views on consent don't match up with your views?

Have you ever actually been in a relationship? Or do you just have an aversion to sponteniety?


Wow, disgusting comment. I have no interest in discussing this with a rape apologist. Good bye and I hope you come to realize how ancient your views on equality are.




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